Healing Abandonment Wounds with Traditional Acupuncture or Tuning Fork Therapy...

Three Points to Restore Safety, Connection, and Inner Stability:

Abandonment wounds don’t just live in the mind—they imprint in the body, the nervous system, and the energetic field. In Traditional Chinese Medicine, these patterns are often connected to imbalances in the Heart, Kidney, and Lung systems—organs that govern connection, safety, grief, and self-worth.

The good news? Your body holds built-in pathways for healing.

Here are three powerful acupuncture points you (or your practitioner) can work with to gently unwind abandonment patterns and restore a sense of inner security.

1. Heart 7 (Shenmen) — “Spirit Gate”

Location: On the wrist crease, in line with the pinky finger, just on the inner side of the tendon.

How to find it: Bend your wrist slightly. Look for the crease on the pinky side—there’s a small indentation where this point lives.

Benefits

Physical:

• Calms the nervous system

• Helps with insomnia, palpitations, and anxiety

Mental:

• Reduces overthinking and looping thoughts

• Supports clarity and emotional regulation

Emotional:

• Soothes feelings of rejection and emotional pain

• Helps rebuild trust and openness

2. Kidney 1 (Yongquan) — “Gushing Spring”

Location: On the sole of the foot, about one-third of the way down from the toes, in the center.

How to find it: Curl your toes slightly—the point appears in the depression that forms just below the ball of the foot.

Benefits

Physical:

• Grounds excess energy (great for anxiety or feeling “up in your head”)

• Supports adrenal health and fatigue

Mental:

• Brings awareness back into the body

• Helps reduce fear-based thinking

Emotional:

• Creates a deep sense of safety and rootedness

• Counters the “floating” feeling that often comes with abandonment wounds

3. Lung 9 (Taiyuan) — “Great Abyss”

Location: On the wrist crease, on the thumb side, in a small depression near the pulse.

How to find it: Place your finger where you feel your pulse on the thumb side of your wrist—this point is right there.

Benefits

Physical:

• Supports breathing and lung function

• Helps with fatigue and immune strength

Mental:

• Encourages presence and letting go

• Softens rigidity and emotional holding

Emotional:

• Helps process grief and loss

• Supports release of old emotional attachments

Simple Self-Healing Acupressure Practice

Try this daily ritual with the eraser end of a pencil (best acupressure tool I've come across):

1. Start with Kidney 1 (both feet) → grounding

2. Move to Heart 7 (both wrists) → calming

3. Finish with Lung 9 (both wrists) → releasing

Apply gentle pressure or massage each point for 1–2 minutes, breathing slowly.

Final Thoughts

Healing abandonment isn’t about “fixing” yourself—it’s about rebuilding a relationship with safety inside your own body.

These points offer a doorway back to that connection.

And the more consistently you show up to these small rituals, the more your system begins to trust: I am here. I am held. I am not alone.